I had watched a video of a sister on Youtube. She was talking about her marriage at a young age and gave many pieces of advice. One of the advice I liked was “Know yourself first before letting someone in your life“. The time she said it I totally agreed and admitted the mistake I had done before marrying.
People know that compatibility is one of the main ingredients for a couple to live together. If both spouses are not on a same wavelength the relation between them may be very complex, and with time, living together may become impossible. That is why if you dedicate a period in my life to get to know who you are, once the answer is found you will know with who you can get along and what kind of man/woman is suitable for you.
In my case, I married to leave my parents’ home but in the end it was not the best decision. Anyway what is done is done. I am addressing myself to the ladies out there who want to get married quickly, please take the time to know yourself first, know what you want in life, try to build and maintain your self confidence so that no man may come in the future to make you feel you are worthy of nothing. Learn about your rights in islam, your duties too. You are a human being, don’t forget that. Many of us feel deep in our heart that we are sent on this earth to fulfill a mission and very often the spouse we choose to be with act as an obstacle to what we have to do. So to avoid living a life full of frustration, know yourself first before letting someone in.