Asalam Alaykum everyone, I am sharing some parenting tips related to sex that I found on a Facebook page. To me they are very interesting especially in a world where child sexual abuse is increasing. On the other hand while some parents might think that a child is too young to be taught these kind of tips I retort that “NO HE/SHE is not too young”.
Let me give you an example and sorry for that: when I or my husband get out of the bathroom, our son always points at our private parts and he is only 17 months old. Another example is I have a sister who when she was 1 or 2 years old she pointed at my brother’s private parts ( he was 4 or 5 years old at that time) when he was bathing. So having these situations in my mind I am all the more convinced that indeed we must teach our children at an early age what is right or not about sex.
1. Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles.
2. Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.
3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’
4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.
5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.
6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.
7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don’t, the society will teach them the wrong values.
8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.
9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.
10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).
11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).
12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the crowd.
13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them.