When browsing the net in the search of tips from mothers, I was impressed by the fact that most of them only talk about how great is motherhood. Their website is a little bubble surrounding pictures of them and their children all smiling and having fun. Each new post is about happiness and that is. It is only once that I had came across a website of a mother who dared to say that women seldom talk about the other side of motherhood.
Yes! let’s face it! We seem to live in a world where people think because a woman carried a baby in her womb for nine months, she is the only one who is able to tackle all the difficulties associated with motherhood. Congrats if you are such a woman! As far as I’m concerned, I am far from being such a person.
I am happy to have my son, but there are many days when I can’t help but cry because motherhood is something which is too much to handle. On top of that, I have a husband who refusee to let our son spend a day with one of his grandmothers. He is of those men who think “God made women to have babies, so women can face the problems all by themselves. NO EXTERNAL HELP NEEDED!!! What’s more, like many men do, he does not help me much either.
As a consequence, I am getting lost day by day. I don’t really enjoy my motherhood. I am stressed from morning to night. It follows that I am most of the time grumpy. I feel I am among the worst mothers because I am not able to correctly take care of my son. And yet, I think it is not late to start afresh, I just wish that in sh Allah someone could tell me how to organize one’s day when having children.
I had no idea that being a mother could be so challenging. I think my deception is derived not only from how motherhood is depicted on TV but also from the blogs I read where women rarely talk of the hidden truths of motherhood.
Anyway, I hope you enjoy your motherhood. And please, if you have any tips for me or if you can suggest me some websites/blogs to read on, you are more than welcome to share these with me 🙂
May Allah keep you in the best of health and imaan. Asalam Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu. © Fateema Abdallah